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Podcast Episode 36 – Success Begets Success

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In This Episode, You Will Learn About:

How can you shift your energy if you notice the momentum going the wrong way in your business?
How can you feel successful before the tangible evidence (money/new clients) arrive?
Why do the rich seem to get richer and the poor get poorer?

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As a leading Life Coach in Maryland, Julie specializes in helping women simplify their lives to reclaim precious time and space, allowing for greater freedom and creativity. Her approach goes beyond traditional coaching methods. Through a blend of intuitive guidance and practical strategies, she empowers her clients to optimize their businesses while nurturing their holistic well-being. From streamlining business offerings to fostering personal growth, she is dedicated to helping you achieve sustainable success and happiness.

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Keeping the Momentum Going

There’s a belief that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Why is that? I have done some digging into that myself. I’ve played in both being rich, feeling rich, and feeling poor, being poor. I played with both as we do as entrepreneurs, right? And what I found was that advice was so freaking annoying when you’re in the depths of it and when the money is not rolling in and you know intuitively, but you don’t want to hear it, that everything is in response to you.

This happened to me because I did have a dry period, and my coaches were like, “We’re not worried, we know how resourceful and how creative you are. You’ve already had huge success. You can easily do it again.” And they were almost confused like why I was going through this dry spell and none of them seemed to be able to give me any advice other than, “We know you’re going to get out of it and we’re not going to worry about this.” It felt and I got chills on that. It was the perfect gift because there was no pity. There was no, “Oh, poor you.” It was like, why not? What are you doing? We know your capacity and what it was when the money wasn’t rolling in and when I felt like things weren’t working.

It felt like it wasn’t what they weren’t, they actually were. What I was feeling was unworthy. I felt no one wanted to work with me. Nobody sees the value in what I do. I’m a mess. I’m not focused enough. I tore myself up during that period and what I realized was the more I felt that way, the more I felt like it’s just not working. I need to throw the towel in and I should just cancel the whole thing. The more that people were repelled and they would come, but they wouldn’t pay me for whatever reason. They would say yes and then something would happen and they would never pay me. Things like that happened and it became like a pattern because the momentum can go in any direction.

Momentum exists when things are going well and keep going well, and people keep booking, the money keeps coming, coming, and coming. And then the momentum and also go in the opposite direction and it is in response to you. But what I learned through that experience was it was a gift for me, that’s number one. So I would take the time to be more mindful of where I was putting my resources in my business and in my personal life.

You know, did you really need to buy bottles of water that are pretty costly or can use a Brita? With simple things like that I had the opportunity to look into when resources and the terms of money weren’t flowing as much. So that was a gift, and also it was a deep dive within to really rediscover my worth for my existence here on earth. That feeling of, why am I here? It gave me the opportunity to really look at that. Why am I here? And had things continued to move in business during that time, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to really look within myself and to discover that I am not what I do. I am not what I look like I am.

I am not what I physically say, or I am not those things, those are expressions of me, but my essence, my existence here on earth is what deems me worthy. And when you’re doing that inner work, sometimes the universe gives you the gift of cutting off other distractions, which be in the form of clients, our partners or friends, or it literally can put up a barrier between you all when you’re doing the inner healing work, which is what I found.

And then, you know the expression that when the dam breaks and the floodgates open, they open. What I’ve done in my own business is set up multiple streams of revenue and I teach others how to do the same thing. But what I realized was that I was spending a lot of time building and my creative energy was really being utilized to develop these different programs, to enhance my retreat.

To come up with my new creation, which is my VIP coaching day, was actually my favorite offering right now, where I map out someone’s entire coaching program and retreat in just half days’ time. I love it. It’s so fun. And that was born during this time and I was also not in partnership romantically with anyone at the time either. So all my creative energy and my power went towards building these different streams of revenue because it is very important to me that I create a legacy for my family, and that my children are not left wanting something that’s a basic need. Do I want them to learn the lessons I’ve learned?

I do not believe in just handing things to anyone, they will work, they will learn. And if they choose to have their own business, you know, I will help them create something, but it’s going to be on them to do it. No matter how much money I bring in, I always believe in the value of work and work where it feels like play. And I would never want to take away from them the feeling of accomplishment that comes when you build an empire and also when you overcome when things aren’t so good. It’s powerful, super powerful.

As far as success, we get success. We often think that success is a lot of money coming in. Success is my body looking the way at once. Success is being in a healthy, loving, committed relationship. Those things can be success if you define those things as success, but you get to choose what success is and more important, what success feels like. Because if you can get into that feeling of success before the tangible evidence arrives, that is the key.

Let me tell you, I know it is freaking hard when you do not feel successful to conjure up those feelings, and we don’t want to be inauthentic about it. You don’t want to pretend that there’s money in your bank account if there’s no money in your bank account. You do not want to be delusional, but what you do want to do is to shift your energy. That becomes the most important thing you focus on. How can I shift my energy to feel successful, to feel alive, to feel worthy? How can you shift your energy to feel that way? And it’s different for everyone. You know, often if we think back to what we did in childhood that really lit us up, that we decide as a little kid, I’m gonna do this for a career.

There were no limitations at that time. Nobody, well, maybe you did have someone telling you couldn’t do it, but got back earlier than that. When you were a kid and you didn’t believe what adults said, you’re like, man grumpy adults, right? But as a kid, what did you want to do? I wanted to be a Broadway star. I wanted to be singing, I wanted to be dancing and be beautiful on stage. And what I started doing was the moth storytelling events. We have one in my area in Washington, DC and you volunteer to speak and to share a story based on that night’s theme. I’ve done it twice now, and both times afterwards, well actually that one time, it was another breakthrough because I did not do well. That is for another podcast episode that I recorded, I think it’s called Worthy Check. But the next time I did it, the feeling of triumph, the feeling of success, the feeling of “Wow, I did that and it feels so good.” That felt so good and there was no money involved with that.

That was a personal success because I chose to put myself out there. I chose to share a personal story. I chose to be brave. I chose to inspire others with my story and my messaging and my courage, and that to me is success. I started doing more things like that, and then I started doing outdoor photoshoots again because it makes me feel alive and it makes me feel in my creative flow. It makes me feel just like, yes, like I’m in love with life.

That is a shift right there because I felt that and I just felt it. Again, thinking about it, talking about it, brings it right back. Those feelings, like I could do this forever. Have no idea what time it is. I have no idea how much money I’m gonna make from this, if any. And it doesn’t matter because this feels so good at this moment.

I just want to soak up this moment. I just wanna talk about this for as long as possible. Tell as many people as possible how good this feels and celebrate this. I’m going to write it down in my journal. I’m going to talk about it. I’m going to record it on my phone. I’m going to make a podcast episode about it. I’m going to write about it in my blog, like really getting into that energy. Is like that magnet, that’s like, whew!

Valuing Commitment

People feel that and they want to get it on that. I want some of what she’s having, right? It’s like that feeling. So how can you allow yourself to feel that before any evidence arrives to feel that wake form? Something I’ve practiced doing is, in the past, I have phone calls with people who are considering working with me through coaching or photography, and in the past I would get really high and excited after I got that.

Sometimes it was before they paid or signed a contract, which I learned not to do. You know, like when they don’t pay you or change their minds. But I’ve learned to be easier about and to just think, of course they want to do this, why wouldn’t they want to do this with me?

I’m fun to be with, I create beautiful photos, I create beautiful experiences. I’m good at business. I know these things about myself, and I’m willing to feel that and to know that. And to separate myself from the result of how another, what another decides to do. Not making it about me. Do they value me? Do they value my work? Are they going to pay me? But the more I know the value of this, the right person is going to be so excited.

I just had a photographer sign up for a VIP coaching day with me and paid in full. She had no doubt at all, no doubt in her mind, and she was like, absolutely, this is perfect. This is exactly what I want to do. I’m hosting a retreat in January and I really want to work with you and learn how to make that a really great experience. So I also sent her a welcome package, her workbook, and told her a little bit about what to expect. And she writes me back and says, “I feel so much better.”

She just knew that this was what she needed to make for herself. She felt that trust with me. She was able to relax and to know that this was her next step and what a gift. And that feels good to both of us because now I know that she’s already ready and just because she paid in full. That does show commitment. The fact she said, I feel so much better already, and that’s before we even done any of the work. That’s how I know it’s going to work for her because she already believes that it will. She already trusts, she’s already open, and she’s already coachable. She’s already ready, let’s go!

That is so rewarding to me as well as the coach of having someone that’s like sure and committed. And if I have someone that’s not sure, it’s not going to be a really great experience for either of us. If they’re not ready, if they’re not ready to be coached, or if they’re not ready to spend the money, or if they’re not ready to get started on this, it’s really not going to be enjoyable for either of us or worthwhile.

So we want to allow those people to fall away easily if they’re not ready yet. If it’s a photoshoot and they want to lose weight, or for some instance, I just had someone say he wanted to grow out his hair. Cool. Who am I to say, no you’re perfect the way you are. Do I believe that perfection is in the eye of the beholder? If they don’t feel good and comfortable and they want to do something about that, who am I to tell them not to? Same with money, if they’re not comfortable spending the money, who am I to convince them that they should be comfortable that this is worth it? No, I want them to arrive at that on their own.

It’s just like if someone has an addiction and you sign them up for AA or something, it’s not going to work. They need to feel the inspiration. They need to, and if you look at it the other way, they need to convince you that they’re willing to be modeled and tested. Because something like a bir photoshoot is deeply intimate. It’s personal exposure. So you want them to show you that they’re ready for this, they’re ready for this level of exposure, they’re ready for this level of trust. Same things in coaching, same things in any area of your expertise.

You want people who are ready for what you have to offer, and then your job is to show up at your fullest to take really good care of yourself, so that you can serve them to your highest capacity as well. If you are interested in learning how to work with me on a deeper level, if you’re interested in setting up multiple streams of revenue for your business, hosting retreats, adding coaches services, online programs, I am happy to help you.

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XOXO,

Julie

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Julie helps business owners break through to the next level of success in their businesses by helping them clear money blocks. She is a psychic medium, intuitive coach, and the international best-selling author of, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams.” In her book, she will walk you through the 4 step process that will help you declutter every area of your life so that you can clear the path to greater purpose and prosperity.

Episode 35 – Multiple Streams of Revenue

Listen to the full episode here.

In This Episode, You Will Learn About:

How creating multiple streams of revenue can boost your business
How to stay organized once you have multiple streams of revenue set up
How to track your goals each month
Which marketing activities can work best to reach your goals

Email Julie at julie@juliegoetzinger.com to request a photo of her checklists that help her to stay organized with her multiple businesses

Schedule complimentary money breakthrough call

About Julie Goetzinger:

Julie Goetzinger is a psychic medium, best-selling author and coach who teaches how to make more money and impact without sacrificing your well-being. In her book, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams,” she shares her story of how she created abundance by stepping into her true self as an artist and spiritual medium. She is the creator of Free to Fly and has seven years of experience in business as an entrepreneur.

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Craving for Variety

One of the most common things that I hear from flow creative clients is that they are bored, and that it feels like they just do the same thing. Photoshoot after photoshoot, and they’re like, money’s coming in. Getting clients is not a problem, but I feel uninspired, and I totally relate to that feeling, like you’re going through the emotions, you’re doing it and you feel like you should be grateful; like you should be happy with what you have. You’ve worked so hard to build this beautiful business. You have clients coming in, and it’s like, Why am I not happy? Why does feeling grateful feel like hard work? Why is it hard to sit down and just appreciate everything that’s come my way? And the reason is because you’re feeling uninspired.

You’re feeling that lack of motivation because as creatives, we crave a variety. We crave for new projects. No, we just wanna do things differently. Like to try things to spice it up, add in a different set for your bir shoots, or can you go to a new location for your photoshoots outside? Of course you can. What I found is that for me, that is not enough. I like to have my hand in multiple projects, and it’s something that I’ve jokingly said as a Gemini, that I can’t just do one thing. I’m the sign of the twins, and Geminis are very creative, free spirits people. We like to do a lot of different things.

Often in the business world, we’re told to pick a lane and the rich are in the niche. Is that true? Absolutely. Are you having fun? Because it’s not just about the money coming in, because if you are making the money, the business is moving smoothly and you’re not fulfilled, what good is that?

Like we’re here to have fun. We’re here to enjoy our lives. So something that I’ve given myself permission to do is to have more than one project, and it feels like different businesses, but it’s all under the same business, Julie Goetzinger, LLC. But I definitely have different lanes and I wanna share with you my process that has helped me to revamp my motivation and my business with hopes that maybe some of these ideas would help you as well.

I actually teach a workshop to photographers called Multiple Streams of Revenue for Photographers. If that interests you, you’ll find a link within my website to join in. Basically, it’s all about multiple streams, like different ways that the money can come in and also different ways to feel more inspired. What I did was I created a chart for myself since I’m a former elementary school teacher so I love making things like whiteboards. It’s fun to check them. So what I did was I made a little whiteboard, and basically it has this month’s goal, for example now is October, 2022 and this will most likely be published in November or December, just change the specific month that you’re in. I’ve broken down my business into three categories: I have speaking, I have photography, and I have coaching. So my goal is to book two photoshoots every month, and I have my photo shoots at the top. For me, it doesn’t matter if I actually do the photoshoot in that month, but my goal is to book at least two photoshoots for a month.

And then my next goal is to book at least two VIP coaching days. This is when I sit down with my photographers and I teach them how to build their own programs for monthly reoccurring income, how to host retreats, and how to add online passive income to their business. So my goal is to book two of those per month.

Then I also have my retreats, I do retreats per year, two abundance breakthrough retreats. I clearly Like number two, Gemini twins, Just an interesting thing that I notice. So my goal is to book at least two spots every month for my retreats and then I have one entertainment event. Since I am a psychic medium as well, I like to do in-person events. I like to do corporate events. I like to do weddings and speaking engagements. My goal is to book at least one of those per month. So I just created little circles with different categories and I get to check them off as I complete them.

The Best Marketing Activities

I also have a section in my chart for my marketing activities, because how am I going to reach these goals? Well, through marketing. I talk a lot more about marketing at my Abundance Breakthrough retreat to tailor the marketing towards you and what feels fun and good for you to do.

I just had someone ask me yesterday at a PPA event that is a photographer’s association group. She sad, “I’m not new to photography,” she actually worked for someone else and was in journalism. She’s a very skilled practice photographer, and she said, “I need to learn all the marketing pieces to attract portrait clients as for my business that I just started.” She is under the impression that she needs to learn all things and learn them all right now, of course. She is like, “I don’t understand keywords. I don’t know how to make reels. I don’t know how to do Youtube.” And my guidance to her was one step at a time and to really tune in to what feels best to you. What’s your favorite way to show up? For me personally, it is video. I love speaking.

It feels good. It feels natural. It feels authentic and comfortable for me. So what I do is I shoot my videos, I shoot for my podcast and my Youtube channel, and then I repurpose that content and put it all over social media. My VA does it and then transcribes it and puts it onto the blog and adds it to my email marketing campaigns. And to me that is so efficient because I get to show up the way I really want to show up that feels best for me, which is speaking and through video. That is my primary marketing activity. And then all the other things they did, it did get done. It gets spread out into the world through social media, through email, and it’s not me splitting my energy and physically doing all those things.

We repurpose content. That’s something we go into deeper at my Abundance Breakthrough Retreat, how to really tune in to what is your special sauce, what is going to help people to really understand what it is that you do and how you can help them as well. So for me my marketing materials or my marketing activities are to send a weekly email. I send email newsletters. I like to make it fun by doing a weekly message from Spirit, and then I’ll add something about a workshop or a retreat that’s coming up. But I always want to entertain, I want to inspire, and I want to educate. So it’s not just me promoting things all the time. There are plenty of people out there that they only reach out to you when they want something from you.

One of my coaches calls it a booty call. Through email, if you don’t hear from someone for months on end and then suddenly they have an event coming up and you hear them nonstop like that week, that’s a booty call, because they want you to sign up for their event. Whereas if you make it more consistent and you add value to their lives in some way, you make it fun for them, you inspire them, you educate them, then they’re gonna be much more likely to want to come to your event because they know who the hell you are.

Next thing is Youtube. I like to do a weekly Youtube and it might sound like a lot for you, but I have a lot of energy. I’m a very high energy person. I’m again a Gemini, I’m a communicator. I like to make videos, I like to write, and I like to speak. So, if this sounds like a lot to you, you just pick and choose what feels good to you. I do a weekly Youtube video, although it is recommended to do a video every single day if you’re using Youtube as your strategy. Well, that is not my primary strategy, it’s just one of my strategies, so I do it once a week, sometimes twice a week, because that feels good. I also have a podcast, and I publish two podcasts every month and I have a virtual workshop, my multiple stream of revenue for photographers. Then I also am starting to do spiritual workshops in person at yoga studios in where I live. I track how many networking events I attend. Networking is a really powerful way to grow your business and also to make new friends, to make new connections. People work with tho they like and trust, and if they don’t know you and they’ve never met you in person or they’ve never seen your face, they’re not gonna be very likely to recommend you.

I’ve been asking the universe for more word of mouth referrals. I love working with someone, like from one night, in-person sales meeting with one of my high school seniors and her family, I said, “I wanna clone you all and I’d like to work with more people just like you.” Like they’re very easy going, fun, appreciative, and happy. The girl was gorgeous, it’s not that it’s a priority, but it did make it easier in editing. I didn’t have to retouch any skin I was like, “you are what I would like more of. Please, send me people who are just like you.” And she did, they sent their best friends, and then they sent me a boy next.

You know that word of mouth referral is really powerful. So really the best marketing you can do is do a really good job for your clients. Show up fully for your clients. Be completely present with them, not having your mind elsewhere. What do I need to do next? Where else do I need to go?

But full presence is your greatest gift. And last night, I sold one of my photography collections. We sat and talked and I have no agenda. I am blessed that my ex-husband has my children half of the time, and so I feel zero guilt about working as late as I want to, and I can be fully present with people and I don’t book anything afterwards so that I can be fully present with them. And they feel that, and desire that too. People desire connections, and not having an agenda for somewhere you need to run off to after. Such a gift to people, especially for moms. Like this one time with a mom, she was just like talking and talking and was so happy. I was like, this is fun. I can’t believe I get paid for this. She’s like, “Oh you need to, you know, head out,” and I’m like, I’m good, I’m happy. I’m enjoying our conversation. It just feels good to connect with people and not have somewhere else to rush off to afterwards. A full presence is your greatest gift you can give to anyone.

Something else I do to keep track of making sure I don’t drop any balls throughout, and since I do have three businesses: the coaching, the speaking and the photography, they all of course branch into different areas as well. I like to have checklists. A whiteboard, specific for my photography clients, a workflow to make sure I don’t drop the balls. I go down from the very first phone call, all the way to delivering their final products, and I make sure I don’t miss those steps. I have templates for everything, and it just helps to keep me track, keep me organized. And I feel better than ever. When I was a coach, I was fully committed to my, especially my free of life program because it’s a yearlong mastermind program. I poured all of my energy into that program and what I found was that I did not put enough energy into the front end of that. So that would be attracting people to come into that program next. I had 15 clients in that program for a year. I served them so fully that I was not paying attention to the front end the way I know I need to now, which was another reason why I set up multiple streams of income because I also have a book.

I did that because I learned that you can’t just put, for me anyway, put all your energy into one thing because what if one thing happens that shifts that thing that you can no longer do? We all saw that during the Covid lockdown. Our photographers, we could not do the photography. People started doing those front stoop pictures for free just to give back to the community, but many of them had to or go to apply for unemployment and PPA loans and all those beautiful things. You never know when things are going to shift and change in our world, that there could be a stream that gets cut off completely.

I know a photographer who went blind. She had a stroke and went blind in one eye. She could no longer do photography. So you never know what’s going to happen. It’s always good to have multiple streams of income, which is what I’m all about, whatI’ve done for my own business, and what I’m now teaching other photographers to do as well.

You can book a complimentary call with me just to talk about this. To see if this is something that you’d like to do for you business, and if you’d like help implementing that, I can certainly help to do that with you.

Episode 34 – Growth Through Failure

In this episode, Julie shares how being willing to fail can lead to your greatest triumphs in life. When we spend so much of our lives trying to avoid failure we are limiting our highest growth potential because in the depths of failure is when the greatest lessons are learned and our true strengthening happens. Getting curious about our desire to “win” and learning to let that go will allow us to experience the true joy and bliss that can happen when we try new things and don’t let the fear of failure stand in our way.

In This Episode, You Will Learn About:

How failing can be the greatest thing that happens for your growth
How to let go of the fear of failure
Having courage to put yourself out there in a new way is what will lead to your greatest triumphs in life

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Performing at the Moth

Recently, I went and performed a story at The Moth. The Moth is for storytellers, many of which are professional speakers, actors, actresses coming to perfect their craft. And I decided, being trained as a professional speaker, this would be something that’s great for me, to get in front of an audience and to practice a story. I signed up to put my name in to be pooled. And what happens is you’re to prepare a five minute talk on a specific theme.

The theme that night was crossroads. So we were asked to prepare a five minute talk, and you don’t know if you’re gonna get chosen when you get there. You put your name in the bag and that just means that you’re open to being chosen. I came in cocky as hell and I left deeply humbled.

Here’s what happened: I walked in and I’m like, “I got this. I’m a speaker. I’ve got a speaking coach. I’ve got a rating coach. I can do this. I’m not afraid.” I introduced myself to the staff. I sat near the VIPs. I saw their seats marked VIP, and I decided I would make friends with the VIPs because I, too, am a VIP, and I deserve to be here in this section. Again, feeling cocky, feeling confident. And cocky to me just means overconfident.

It was just how I was at the beginning of that night, and I made friends with this woman who actually had won the event the previous time. So we exchanged phone numbers because I figured it’d be good to know her. And she also just thought it was fun to connect with me. So we exchanged phone numbers. She is the first person to get picked to share, and she does an incredible job, and I’m so proud of my new friend. She gets good scores and that was something else. I didn’t realize that we were even being scored. I thought that we were just going up there, kind of like karaoke, and just share our story from our hearts. You know, kind of like improv.

Well, no, there’s a specific criteria that you’re to follow. It’s supposed to be timed and you are judged and you get scores. I was like, “Oh, okay, well, if I’m meant to get picked, I get picked. If I’m not, I won’t. No big deal, right?” My name is called next. I’m like, “Oh shit. Too late to turn back.” Now, I walk out on stage loosely having a story that I wanted to share about divorce and had no idea how long the story was gonna be.

I was proud of my story because my message was about divorce as completion. It was about not to fear it, not to think you’re bad or wrong, or to shame yourself for going through divorce or for considering divorce, but to see it as completion and to continue to send that person love and appreciation after the separation.

So I finished my story. I just stopped. There was no real ending. I just stopped talking. I had no idea how long I’d been talking. The audience applauds me. I go and sit down and my scores pop up. They’re low. They’re pretty low, and I’m thinking, “Well, I didn’t know what I was doing. It’s fine. At least I got up there and shared my story. It’s okay.” The next person gets up there, her scores are much higher than mine. The next person gets up there, their scores are also higher than mine, to the point where my name just kept dropping lower and lower in that scoreboard. I’m sitting there feeling like I’m gonna explode with tears, fighting them back. Just feeling all the feelings that I have no right to be here. Who am I to be a speaker? I need to pick something else. I can never do this professionally. Who would pay me for this when I just got that score? I don’t deserve to be here. The lights finally came on during intermission and I did not say goodbye to any of my new friends. I beline it the hell out of there. I fast walk to the metro, get to the metro. Two people ask me for money, and I’m thinking, “Well now I’m gonna get robbed after just being kicked down, being told I wasn’t good enough, basically by a huge audience of people that I’ve never even met.” Finally I get home and I cry myself to sleep.

Realizations after the Failure

I wake up the next morning wanting to blame someone for these feelings. These feelings of inferiority, these feelings of failure. And I’m thinking, they shouldn’t have judged you. They shouldn’t have given scores. That was humiliating. I will never step foot in the Miracle Theater again. And then I got curious and I started thinking, what part of me has such a strong desire to win? Why?

I thought back in my life to other times when I had won and lost and what happened, and what I recalled was if I would score the winning goal in soccer or if I would get chosen for a part in the play in my school auditions, then, I would receive a lot of love from my father. And my dad was a performer as well, and I was thinking, this is his arena. I can’t let dad down. My dad has now departed. I was thinking, “Wow, I really let dad down.” And I think subconsciously that was actually what I was responding to. Not my scores, but what it meant and how it made me feel. I realized that winning was actually me putting myself out there saying yes to allowing myself to be someone who shared a story in hopes of inspiring and uplifting others.

Maybe someone in the audience was going through a divorce right then, or was about to, and was fearful and needed to hear my message not to be afraid. That was why I shared that, not to get good scores. And then I started thinking, how is this any different than getting crappy scores in mini golf? Why does this matter so much?

And I realized that it was the being stuck in this idea of what success looks like. Success looks like lots of money. Success looks like high scores. Success looks like praise from others. So, as long as we need that feeling and that validation from others, we will never feel success within. The success here is in putting ourselves out there of being bold and being brave. Having the desire to inspire and to help and to teach others, that is success.

And that is my story of how I was humbled, yet was also able to pick myself back up and grow through this perceived failure and to not see it as a failure at all. I also realized that the name of the theater was The Miracle Theater, and I laughed about that because of the breakthrough that I experienced in the Miracle Theater.

This is the exact story that I plan to share at the next month’s event. I’m not shying away. I’m not hiding. I’m not staying home feeling sorry for myself. I’m gonna put myself out there again only one month after having that happen. That is success. That is winning.

Episode 33- Worthy

In this episode, Julie shares how our worth is not determined by how much money is in our bank account, how many people want to work with us/date us/ what our body looks like, etc. Our worth comes from our existence as the divine beings that we are. It’s not what we do, it’s WHO we are. So long as we define worth and success as something outside of ourselves that we can achieve, we will endlessly be searching for it.

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How to feel successful before the money comes/before the partner arrives
How to cultivate a greater sense of self-worth

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Feeling Unworthy

This year has been a huge lesson to me in identity and defining myself by success, defining myself by how much money was in my account, and how many people wanted to work with me. And as people completed their contracts and moved forward, it felt like a not good job for me for helping them get where they needed to be. I took it as they don’t want to be with me anymore. I have no value to them anymore. That was the story I told myself, and it felt like heartbreak. It felt painful. And as the client started to move on and had some unforeseen things happen financially this year, my worthiness went down dramatically.

I started to think they don’t wanna be with me. I have nothing to offer. I’m done. I scheduled some connection calls with past clients who told me what’s happened since working with me, things I didn’t even know. One of them fell in love with her partner and now has two children with her.

And I was like, “How long has it been since we talked? You were single the last time we worked together.” And then another client was telling me about this huge surge in income that she’s had in her business and the money blocks that I help her to overcome. And then others, it was just so good to hear their voice and reconnect with them, and they reminded me of what I’ve already done.

The lessons taught are invaluable to them, but for me, it just felt like loss. It felt like I was not good enough, and I started moving money around. I started getting resourceful and really reorganizing everything, scrutinizing every little payment that I was making. To be very mindful is something that serves my business. Is this working? And if it wasn’t, I let it go. So it gave me the opportunity to go through everything with a fine comb and to let go of things that weren’t joyful or that weren’t bringing a return to my business. So that was a great gift, but a shift happened for me.

The other night at three o’clock in the morning, which is my hour when the spirit wakes me up. I heard very clearly, “You’ve been inauthentic, Julie. You’ve been inauthentic.” And I was like, “How? Like how am I being inauthentic?” And what I received was, “You need to claim who you are as a psychic medium and not shy away from it for fear of judgment. How others gonna receive you? How can you package yourself so that you’re accepted by more people, so that you can make more money, so that you can feel more loved, more accepted?”

And I was told very specifically, “You need to change this title. You need to own this. This is who you are. This is not a profession. This is your calling. This is your mission. You need to do this.” And I had started to shift to serve who I thought needed to be served in order to make money, in order to sustain myself and my family.

I was like, “Well, I need to teach business strategy. I need to do this. This is what people want.” And what happened was there was a disconnect and they were saying, “I don’t have time for another program. I don’t have time. I don’t have money for another education program right now.” And in my mind I was like, this isn’t an educational program. I miss psychic medium. I can connect to your loved ones. I can connect to your guides and your angels and help you step into your highest growth potential. This is not education, this is the mission and not just my mission, but their mission too. And I think that’s why. It was painful to hear people say, “I’m just not ready yet.”

Embracing the Authentic Self

I’m just not ready yet. But I’ve been saying that to myself. I’m not ready yet. I’m not ready to step into the full version of who I am. And at 3:00 AM, I changed my title to Psychic Medium, and I put it all over social media. I put it on my website and I’m like, “I’m just gonna accept that this is it. This is it.”

And I looked back in my life at the times that I did accept that and wrote about it in my book, claimed that as my own, and just shared it with the world, my abundance was there. And right after I reclaimed this title—this has been who I am in multiple lifetimes—I got the yes I’d been waiting for. Not just this yes on my house. It feels like a complete new lease on life, and I had started to feel the urgency around moving and it’s time to move. I keep hearing that it’s time to declutter, it’s time to shift. And I was like, “I don’t have that much stuff. I’m in an apartment. I’ll do that when I move.” I started to look around for some places to move and I was thinking, “I’m done with being in an apartment. I’m done having lots of neighbors.”

I’m an empath. I feel every little thing. And being in an apartment has been very challenging for me for multiple reasons, but this is just not the way I want to live. This is not conducive to my lifestyle. And I started looking for other options. I saw this house, it was like a little cottage, and it’s by a lake. And I drove up with my daughter and she said, “Mommy, can we afford this? This is its own house.” And I said, “Well, actually, it’s less expensive than where we are now because I’m in a high-cost living area.” And she was like, “Wow, mom. It’s so beautiful.” And we hadn’t had a tour schedule yet, but I had my daughter’s approval, which is really important to me because she’s very in tune as well.

And we drove away and I was like, “I gotta move on this.” So, I set up a tour the next day with the owner. I walked in, and there’s a sage in the middle of his table and there’s crystals everywhere. And I was like, “What is this?” This is like a stage for me. Like I don’t meet many people who have all of this where I live and the east coast near Washington, DC. There’s not a lot of us that I’ve met personally that live here. And this man has this over his house and I’m talking to him, seeing all the things that we have in common, and I’m just like, “This is my house.” I started taking pictures of every room, like planning out where I’m gonna put everything. Meanwhile, I didn’t even fill out an application yet, but I knew it was my house.

And I drove away and all the fears, “What if he doesn’t pick me? What if my finances aren’t strong enough? What if he wants someone with two people’s income?” All the fears, all the doubt, the self-doubt, the worthiness that I’ve been struggling with all year, not feeling good enough, it came out to the forefront. The night that I decided to reclaim who I am and not to be fearful of the judgment that I may receive for saying or claiming or sharing that I am a psychic medium. The next morning I got the yes for the house. The excitement that I felt, knowing that this is where I’m going to step into that next highest version of myself as an entertainer, as a performer, and as someone who is ready to be seen and received by the masses.

And feeling so called to performance, feeling called to big audiences, big crowds, I know that it’s going to happen when I’m in that house. And all of this happened after I said yes, and after I did some looking into the worthiness piece. When things are stripped away from us, we associate that with our worth, our money, our appearance, and who we’re in partner with. The other day I was thinking I’m not where I wanna be financially. I don’t have a partner right now. I don’t know where I’m gonna live. I don’t know what’s happening with my business. There were so many unknowns that I was just like in the depths of hell, in the depths of it, dark night of the soul. Like, I’m done. Done with all of this, and I don’t deserve this because I’ve worked so hard to get where I am.

And meanwhile, the outside world is telling me, “You’re amazing. You’re so inspiring. You’ve changed my life. We’re so appreciative of you.” I can hear that all day long, but until I know it and I feel it within, it means nothing.

Not needing the external world to validate us, but seeing it from within, trusting our intuition, going where it says to go, and visualizing the future. Already realized I saw myself in that house. I see myself in that house. I see myself on stage. I’ve had dream over, dream over, dream over dream of huge stadiums audiences filled, coming to hear me speak. And the lesson for me has been this: we’re not worthy by what we do, how we look, who’s with us, who thinks we’re good enough. We’re worthy because we exist because we’re here. We’re all worthy exactly as we are. Not after we’ve gotten more education, after we have more money after our body looked a certain way after someone tells us they love, but for exactly who we are in this moment. You are worthy.

So it’s time to start celebrating that future that’s not even realized yet. Start celebrating it now. Feel it now. See yourself there. Now doing it, being with who you wanna be with, where you wanna be. Feel it. You are worthy of all of it. And it can happen like that. And some of us choose to have our manifestation spread out. Some of us choose to get them in this like windfall. That’s what I like. Just give it all just a huge windfall, thank you. But however you are open to receiving it, knowing that it is coming, you put your order and you’ve requested it is coming. You are worthy of it.

What’s mine will never pass me by. What’s mine will never pass me by. My requests have been heard. My request have been honored. And in the perfect time and in the perfect way, they will be realized.

Episode 32 – Photography as a Ritual with Angela Michelle

In this episode, I interview boudoir portrait photographer turned intimacy educator, Angela Michelle who lost her eyesight after suffering from a stroke. She shares, “For a photographer to lose vision is heartbreaking and I managed to take that experience and find even greater purpose in my mission.

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Moving on and Adapting from a Heartbreaking Trial in Life

Angela is a stroke survivor who is completely blind in one eye and has learned to adapt as a photographer and educator. I would love to start with how you have adapted? I can imagine that that was really heartbreaking and scary as anything and yeah. How did you, move forward from that?

So I think losing vision for anyone is devastating, but I think for a photographer, it’s probably one of our biggest fears. We kind of talked about how I had an intuition before. I always had this fear of going blind, of losing vision, and I’ve had it very strongly ever since I was a child, and everyone always told me like, “Oh, yeah, you’re a photographer. Use your eyes.” But when it happened, I think because I intuitively knew it was going to happen—I can’t even explain that—I think I handled it pretty well. I think some people might have been more devastated, but because I had this feeling when it happened, I was just like, “Okay, this is how it happens.”

And how do I move forward? I promised myself, as long as I could still see, I would still be a photographer and I would still find ways to photograph because it is something that I am just so passionate about. And it’s been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. So yeah, I do still photograph, although not as often. And that’s because of the stroke; it wasn’t just the vision loss. It also caused a whole other list of health issues that have kept me in and out of the hospital for the past, six years now. No doubt you’ve faced that question. Why did this happen? Why me? Have you gotten any answers about that?

It turns out I have a rare clotting disorder called Antiphospholipid syndrome. I was not aware I had it until the stroke happened and I was pregnant with my first child. Would’ve been my first child. And they think, in my case, the pregnancy hormones, kind of pushed this disease into overdrive. And I ended up with what is known as catastrophic anti-phospholipid. And that just means your body is throwing clots everywhere. That’s what caused the stroke. That’s also what caused all the pulmonary embolisms, which would lead to lung disease. For those who can see, you can kind of see the scar on my chest. That’s an open heart surgery that they did actually on my lungs in 2018.

Yes, we got answers. It’s always nice when you know the reason why, and if I’m being honest, I have been struggling for about a decade, leading up to that incident, with my health and I was struggling to get doctors to listen and look deeper if there was an issue. So when it happened, it was devastating, but it was also kind of, “Okay, there’s a reason why this is happening.” And now that I know, I can do things to make my life better.

So that’s the scientific reason, but what about the spiritual? The bigger “why.” Have you been able to uncover that? It’s so interesting that you ask that because we hear people all the time say things happen for a reason. And I don’t wanna go down the toxic positivity road by any means, but I do feel like this was my path a way. And I do feel like what happened to me had to happen for me to become the person that I am now. And I’ll be honest. I really like the person I am now. In that way, I tell people I’m actually grateful for the experience because it did ignite a transformation in me that I think was so needed in my life. And I think it put me even more on the path of doing what I’m here to do.

The Bigger Meaning in Life

And what are you here to do now? I’m here to do what I’ve always done. I just feel more purpose in it and that’s to help transform people. It’s to help people live their best life and not wait, not hold back, because life is happening right now in this present moment. And I really want people to embrace that.

Your story is such an in inspiration and I thank you for your honesty and being so forthcoming. Your vulnerability is really beautiful and inspiring. And like you said, it’s given you bigger meaning in your life—what you’ve gone through.

Photography as a Ritual

So I thank you for sharing that part of your story. I’d like to hear a little bit more about your photography. You see your photography as more of a ritual, and I’d love for you to explain what do you mean by that photography as a ritual? My degree is in cultural anthropology and I studied sex and rituals in depth.

I already had this idea of like what a ritual is. And at the time I had started my photography business in 2008. I was still in school, and I began to see these transformations that people would have in a photography session. And I was like, “Something’s happening here.” And when I started thinking of the purpose of a ritual, it is to transform. It is a liminal state of possibility.

So when you’re in the ritual, you’re not what you were, and you’re not what you’re going to be just yet. It’s just this infinite possibility of what you can be. And so when I started to see photography like that, the first thing I did is I thought of all the times we tend to hire professional photographer: newborn, maternity, weddings, engagement sessions. I’m Hispanic. So, all these kind of milestone moments. And I was like, “Wow. I think part of our purpose as photographers is to help people transform how they see themselves.” I think photography is such a powerful medium for that because it is embodied work. It’s a work that we do with our body, and we’re in this moment, but we’ve come out of it. And we see ourselves the way that we want to be seen, maybe the way that we always want to be seen, maybe the way that we feel in our heart. That just transforms us and helps us step into that role even more, whether that role is being sexy, beautiful, empowered woman who’s owning her body, or whether it’s helping to someone—you know a senior portrait session, it’s a huge transformation. Like you’re taking a young woman and helping to see herself as this independent adult. And so there’s that transformation there. So I just think there’s so much possibilities for it to be a ritual.

Photography as a Safe Space

And when you think of it that way, you can think of all the steps of how to make the ritual even more intense. I guess just more fulfilling for that particular client. And how do you hold that space for the clients to have that transformation? Because I would bet that not every photographer notices and is like, “Oh, look, you look so beautiful. You look different.” And that’s just a small percentage of the transformation. How do you hold this space for a woman to transform emotionally and to see herself differently? I think holding space is an art in itself. It really is. And I’ve recently shifted the way that I talk about it. For so long, I used to say safe space, and I think that is a goal as someone who’s trained as a sexologist. You know, there is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. And so I kind of take that same idea. I can’t promise you safe space, cuz I don’t know what each person’s triggers are or where they may run into trouble. So I can’t promise you that safe space. I can promise you a supportive space and in that supportive space, I hold that space for you to feel whatever you need to feel. And so I tell people if you have a visceral reaction, whether it’s crying or screaming or whatever, you were allowed to have that. I’m not gonna hold you back from that. I’m not here to control the way you feel. I’m here to give you that space and support you to feel what you need to feel. Whether that person is struggling with their body image, or maybe struggling with something deeper.

You know, in boudoir work, we work a lot with people who are working through their sexuality. And so sometimes it’s them stepping into those emotions that they feel around that maybe are from a past experience, or maybe just kind of wanting to show up as their authentic self.

And this is really why I believe boudoir photographers are healers because this isn’t just any old photo shoot. Like this is really allow, like you said, the sexual wounds that we might be carrying—the body image, the internal thoughts, like there’s so much that goes into it and holding that. The word that pops into my head is sacred space—holding sacred space and that space for you to feel what you’re gonna feel. And like you said, I can’t guarantee safe space and everyone defines safety differently. I believe that we’re all inherently safe and it’s all just a perception that we’re not. But we are going to be triggered and that’s part of growth is part of transformation and holding the space for someone to be safe, even in the triggering.

Helping People Realize They’re Worthy of Love and Pleasure

So that sounds like it’s exactly what you’re doing. I love it. I love the work that you’re doing. You shared with me that your mission is to help people realize that they’re worthy of love and pleasure, and they deserve to live the life that they want. Can you tell me a little bit more about this and how you help them to do this?

I think, through photography, we do this through that transformation and I’m not talking about the physical transformation. I’m talking about the internal transformation that a client experiences and that we all see. That’s a big mission to see that they’re worthy of love and pleasure. I think, for me, the power of the session itself is that a client was scared to do something and they did it anyway. And there’s so much emotion and like power and resilience and bravery that can come out of that experience because they were vulnerable and they put themselves in a vulnerable situation. But they moved through it because I think we grow through discomfort. And so I think that that alone allows them to maybe realize, like, “What else can I do in my life that I had been putting off because I didn’t feel worthy? Because I was worthy to do this photo shoot and look at these photos and look at how I feel.”

So my hope is that it’s part of that journey of them to kind of feel like they are worth it. So now that I don’t do as much photography, I say I still do what I always did. I just don’t always have my camera as the tool. Cause to me, the camera was just a tool to do the work. So now I do it a lot through embodied work through yoga, through breath work, through journaling, through different exercises that I give clients. They work through intimacy obstacles. And to be clear when I talk about intimacy, you know, a lot of times, we think of intimacy, like with a partner, like maybe with our sexual partner. But there’s intimacy in all our relationships. And most importantly, there’s intimacy within ourself—our self intimacy. And I tell people you can’t connect to other people until you’ve learned to connect to yourself and your own body.

And so a lot of the work I do is those exercises to help them and to kind of just shift their mindset: Why do you think you’re not worthy? Where did that come from? Let’s use compassionate curiosity to break it down, and then we can get back to that place of worthy needs.

So much when you were sharing came up for me. You know, being single now, and everybody said before, you need to be alone for a while. You need to, and I didn’t understand that. I was like, “No, I like being in a partnership. I like being with a man.” And then I realized that the real healing happened alone. And I was also the most fulfilled sitting under a mountain in Colorado, all by myself. And I was like, “Oh, this is what I’ve been avoiding. And this is the most powerful feeling of bliss I’ve ever felt in my life.” And I’m sitting here in nature, and it was like, “Wow.” And I also loved what you said about being intimate with yourself and really going within and looking at everything. That’s there blessing, loving every little bit of it. None of it’s bad or wrong and just honoring all of that. And when we do that work first and then you attract friends, clients lovers from that space—that’s powerful.

The Path to Becoming an Intimacy Educator

I would love to hear if other photographers are interested in becoming an intimacy educator. How do they do that? How do you start on that path to become an intimacy? I think it really depends the path that you want to take. Intimacy educators were a pretty broad group, so some people are actual therapists. I am not a licensed therapist. That’s not what I tell people I do. But a lot of them are. So if you wanted to go that route, there is that route that somehow is more into public education. Some are doing behind the scenes work. Some are working in like public education or even private education. Some are working in the entertainment industry and trying to make things safer for actors and actresses. So it just kind of depends on the direction you want to. But I say maybe really sit and think about like what values you have, what other skills you have, and what direction you’d wanna go.

And then you’d wanna find a program that will help you get the education you need. And there’s a ton of programs out there. I went through the Sexology Institute here in San Antonio and I am now one of their instructors in the program. So I am partial to our program, but it may not be the right program for every person. And so I just tell people to look at the different programs that are out there. Look at their content. Also look at their instructors. I’m always looking for a diverse group of instructors. I don’t wanna see only one viewpoint. So just find what the right fit is for you to get the education. And then realize, just like with photography, you’re running a business. So yes, I do this, but it is a business. And so you’ve gotta have all the business aspect in there as well.

The Power in Sharing Your Story

I was telling you that when I had my stroke, unfortunately, two hospitals missed it. They did not recognize it as a stroke. And that led to several hours of delaying in care. And that led to the permanent vision loss. Because that happened, I became very vocal about talking about my journey with my illness and I was sharing on social media, talking about my experience.

The following year, I ended up in the hospital and my oxygen levels were unsafe. I ended up having to leave that hospital with oxygen 24/7, but my doctors did not understand why. And I was sharing this on social media and because of it, an old high school friend who had become a heart surgeon, saw my post and he wrote me and he said, I think you have this really rare lung disease. And with his help, I got diagnosed. At the time I was diagnosed, I was given less than two years to live without medical intervention. Luckily I was able to have surgery in 2018 on my lungs, and that is the surgery that literally saved my life. And I continue to share my story because I want people to know that we know our body better than anyone. I think back to when I had the stroke. I knew something was wrong. I just didn’t know what, and I kept begging the doctors, like something’s really wrong. I don’t know what, but something’s really wrong with my body. And they dismissed it as anxiety.

And I feel like part of that was my gender being a woman. I don’t know. And I don’t think they would’ve said that to a man, “You just have anxiety.” So one of the things I really teach with my clients is that we know. We have to tune in to ourselves. And that means shutting out the noise, even sometimes shutting out the noise of experts.

What I tell people is, “You know, the doctors, they go to school, they study, and they are amazing at what they do, but they have no idea what it’s like to live in this body.” I do. And if that is an intuition that we have, we have to learn to trust ourselves in order for us to truly be empowered and to have agency over ourselves.

Something that I felt from Angela was this: I will not be ignored. And sharing some of her feelings about feeling that way in the past. And now it’s like, “Enough of this. I will speak. I will share my story. I will heal others by being open and honest about this and helping others to also advocate for themselves in all areas of life.” You know, this doesn’t just apply to health and your body. This applies to relationships. This applies to your business, your families. I will not be ignored. None of us came here to be ignored and to blend in. We all have a story. We all have a mission. And the more of us that come out and share, “This is my story. This is my truth,” the more lives are going to be saved. Like literally lives are saved because we speak.

That’s what I tell people: use your voice. You know, we have our voice; trust your intuition and use your voice because we are worthy. We have value and I’m not gonna be ignored. I don’t want anyone else to be ignored. And I hope that my story inspires others to step into their own in that way and to own what they feel and to not be ignored. And we’re worthy because we’re here.